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Listen In: Dementia Widow Book Launch
Fay Martin Fay Martin

Listen In: Dementia Widow Book Launch

The arrival of Dementia Widow into the larger world was greeted by a large and enthusiastic group of eager readers, beautifully hosted by Laurie Jones of Rail's End Gallery in Haliburton.  

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Maiden, Mother, Crone redux
Fay Martin Fay Martin

Maiden, Mother, Crone redux

An old theme, perhaps a new angle, on the structural exploitation of femaleness in our culture. It's the foundation for a column yet to follow that may be a full-throated rant on I Am Crone, Hear Me Roar. 

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Unhinged
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Unhinged

A ramble through several perspectives about what we can do to prevent the circumstances that legitimately brought Hitler and Stalin (and an unnamed person to the south) to power, riding a bit on Carney's Davos shirt-tail.

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Death, where is thy sting?
Fay Martin Fay Martin

Death, where is thy sting?

My ruminations after experiencing a Death Café, including my introduction to alkaline cremation, and whether at any level we can decide we've had enough of life and take our leave (naturally: I'm not talking suicide or MAID).

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The Bot Invasion
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The Bot Invasion

A primary use of Artificial Intelligence is therapy and companionship, truly a terrifying thought given how spectacularly ill-equipped AI is for this work. What can we do to push back?

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Coercive Control, MAID and Dementia
Fay Martin Fay Martin

Coercive Control, MAID and Dementia

The issue of whether mental health, including dementia, is eligible for advance request for MAiD is coming back to parliament for decision in spring '27, but discussion should be included in considering Bill C-16 about coercive control, the abuse of power in intimate relationships. I raise many questions; no answers. 

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Senior abuse
Fay Martin Fay Martin

Senior abuse

Bill C-16, now before the federal government, intends to protect people 'in relationships of trust and dependence', with an eye to Intimate Partner Violence. Here I suggest it should also include seniors who are nowhere else specifically protected, even though, i argue, they are potentially more vulnerable than children.

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The Fear of Death
Fay Martin Fay Martin

The Fear of Death

Dr. Sally Chivers says what we fear determines how we see the world. Because we fear death, we walk blindly, trepidatiously, into an inevitable 'passing' (to use the word that has replaced 'died', even as we don't talk about the journey).

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A Lost Generation?
Fay Martin Fay Martin

A Lost Generation?

We are reaping the 'reward' of over-protecting our children in the relatively safe real world and abandoning them to very real danger in the cyberworld.

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Sharing hard-earned wisdom
Fay Martin Fay Martin

Sharing hard-earned wisdom

After I visited an alternative care facility for people with dementia in the Netherlands I had an Aha! moment about how to characterize the caregiving experience.

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All Together Now!
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All Together Now!

This is a shout-out to The Working Centre in Kitchener, whose founder was a key-note speaker at the Housing Summit. It is a modern manifestation of the philosophy of The Commons, a way of life that contradicts capitalism.

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Producerism: The Process
Fay Martin Fay Martin

Producerism: The Process

Producerism is the integration of work with the people who produce and consume that work. Relearning to value this connection is posed as an antidote to the bullying of economic behemoths.

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Accountability or Torture?
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Accountability or Torture?

On the occasion of the Leader of the Opposition regaining a seat in parliament, I decry his obsession / our acquiescence with defining accountability as holding feet to the fire, a medieval torture practice. 

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Get to Work… On whose terms?
Fay Martin Fay Martin

Get to Work… On whose terms?

The greying demography needs every able worker to pull their weight. Yet we seem determined to make work difficult. What kind of sense is that?

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Restorative Government
Fay Martin Fay Martin

Restorative Government

“What is democracy but a way of caring for each other at a high level?” That's a question posed by Adrienne Maree Brown, author of a fantasy trilogy about Detroit coming back to civilization after devastation that teases out the building blocks of successful governance. 

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Restorative Justice
Fay Martin Fay Martin

Restorative Justice

In Oliver Twist, Charles Dickens dissected in detail the way in which 'the law is an ass' (i.e. stupid and stubborn) by insisting that the black/white scalpel of the law can carve out truth in the grey of human life. We consider recent examples of apparent lawful assininity and consider an alternative. 

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I Got You, Babe on Canoe FM
Fay Martin Fay Martin

I Got You, Babe on Canoe FM

When dementia moves in, the reciprocity of marriage gives way, gradually and clumsily, to the hierarchy of caregiving. I read the prologue to my forthcoming memoir, Dementia Widow. 

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