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This Marriage is Over
I propose that we walk out of our toxic relationship with the USA and learn to live solo. I acknowledge it will cost dearly, but also that it will pay off when the power of (re)learning to be who WE are moves into the empty space. Divorce is a fresh start, and a good one when badness has taken over.
Care and Order
revisit the dialectic that informed my doctoral work to consider how to analyze candidates for municipal office. Best equipped for the job is those who are fluent enough in both Care (inclusive, responsive, minimizes harm) and Order (roles, rules, reciprocity) to apply the proper lens/language to the myriad of situations their role will cover.
Dementia and Soul
I tussle further with the question of how/when a person with dementia could give permission for MAiD, and how/whether there is a something (I call it soul) that guides the body through the process of death -- even, perhaps, in the absence of mind.
No fluff in this Pollan
I dig deeper and differently into Pollan to unpack the question of whether dementia could or should be included when federal legislation reconsiders whether people will be eligible for MAiD solely on the basis of mental illness. I conclude not, but the issues beg further discussion.
It’s Pollan Season
I take my first go at Michael Pollan's book to explore whether machines (as in AI) can develop a conscience, as their creators say they can. I conclude they can't.
Values… Conflict, Confluence
Unpaid directors of boards, including municipal councils, are eagle-eye watched for Conflicts of Interest, but generously paid directors of for-profit boards are expected to bring their Confluences of Interest to the table. The municipal election season has just begun.
A he-said she-said dilemma
It is dangerous to question the right to choose one's gender these days, but I exercise the right to interrogate the milieu in which it takes place.
Boys Will Be Boys
Gisèle Pelicot twisted the direction of the blame finger from the woman raped to the men who raped her by inviting the world into a courtroom that, however, falls short of holding accountable the larger social structure that creates and protects sexual predators.
When elder care becomes elder abuse
A horrifying story of a 73-year-old daughter charged with failure to provide necessities of life for her 96-year-old mother rips back the curtain on the high moral cost of under-resourcing elder care.
Aiding and Abetting
A local attempt to encourage engagement in upcoming municipal elections exposes how we structurally discourage good people from running for office.
Happy Soul Podcast
Fay appears on the Happy Soul Podcast to have a chat about many topics, including her new book.
I Am Crone, Hear Me Roar
This is a delayed part 2 of my earlier rant about the difficulty the world has in appropriately understanding and respecting the role of women. In this salvo, i suggest that older women consider withholding their contribution to community and family life to raise awareness about what exactly it is and how it should be honoured.
Listen In: Dementia Widow Book Launch
The arrival of Dementia Widow into the larger world was greeted by a large and enthusiastic group of eager readers, beautifully hosted by Laurie Jones of Rail's End Gallery in Haliburton.
Dementia Widow in the News
A rundown of appearances discussing the new book, both in print and on the radio.
Once More Info the Fray
I amplify several suggestions made by Dave Meslin, author of Rebuilding Democracy, in a recent local event, designed to reclaim local democratic process. Specifically, in preparation for this fall's municipal election, where silly season has already commenced.
Maiden, Mother, Crone redux
An old theme, perhaps a new angle, on the structural exploitation of femaleness in our culture. It's the foundation for a column yet to follow that may be a full-throated rant on I Am Crone, Hear Me Roar.
A discussion with Jenn Watt on The Journey Together
Jenn Watt interviewed me on Canoe FM’s The Journey Together for a wide ranging discussion in anticipation Dementia Widow’s launch in March.
Death, where is thy sting?
My ruminations after experiencing a Death Café, including my introduction to alkaline cremation, and whether at any level we can decide we've had enough of life and take our leave (naturally: I'm not talking suicide or MAID).
The Bot Invasion
A primary use of Artificial Intelligence is therapy and companionship, truly a terrifying thought given how spectacularly ill-equipped AI is for this work. What can we do to push back?