Selected Columns

Sharing hard-earned wisdom
Fay Martin Fay Martin

Sharing hard-earned wisdom

After I visited an alternative care facility for people with dementia in the Netherlands I had an Aha! moment about how to characterize the caregiving experience.

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All Together Now!
Fay Martin Fay Martin

All Together Now!

This is a shout-out to The Working Centre in Kitchener, whose founder was a key-note speaker at the Housing Summit. It is a modern manifestation of the philosophy of The Commons, a way of life that contradicts capitalism.

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Producerism: The Process
Fay Martin Fay Martin

Producerism: The Process

Producerism is the integration of work with the people who produce and consume that work. Relearning to value this connection is posed as an antidote to the bullying of economic behemoths.

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Accountability or Torture?
Fay Martin Fay Martin

Accountability or Torture?

On the occasion of the Leader of the Opposition regaining a seat in parliament, I decry his obsession / our acquiescence with defining accountability as holding feet to the fire, a medieval torture practice. 

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Get to Work… On whose terms?
Fay Martin Fay Martin

Get to Work… On whose terms?

The greying demography needs every able worker to pull their weight. Yet we seem determined to make work difficult. What kind of sense is that?

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Restorative Government
Fay Martin Fay Martin

Restorative Government

“What is democracy but a way of caring for each other at a high level?” That's a question posed by Adrienne Maree Brown, author of a fantasy trilogy about Detroit coming back to civilization after devastation that teases out the building blocks of successful governance. 

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Restorative Justice
Fay Martin Fay Martin

Restorative Justice

In Oliver Twist, Charles Dickens dissected in detail the way in which 'the law is an ass' (i.e. stupid and stubborn) by insisting that the black/white scalpel of the law can carve out truth in the grey of human life. We consider recent examples of apparent lawful assininity and consider an alternative. 

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I Got You, Babe on Canoe FM
Fay Martin Fay Martin

I Got You, Babe on Canoe FM

When dementia moves in, the reciprocity of marriage gives way, gradually and clumsily, to the hierarchy of caregiving. I read the prologue to my forthcoming memoir, Dementia Widow. 

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Hello, Real Widow on Canoe FM
Fay Martin Fay Martin

Hello, Real Widow on Canoe FM

There's a discernible click in the wheel of life as wife becomes widow. The loons that surveil a dawn swim on Day 1 of real widowhood evoke ruminations. I read the opening of the final section of Dementia Widow. 

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The Power of Positive
Fay Martin Fay Martin

The Power of Positive

If, as seems the norm these days, the right to invent truth is inalienable, i suggest we use that freedom to accentuate the positive, starting with the belief that goodness begets goodness. 

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The Aging Brain
Fay Martin Fay Martin

The Aging Brain

If we properly researched how the brain functions over its life span, we would better understand where normality ends and pathology -- whether dementia or mental illness or addiction -- begins. And accommodate it more humanely.

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Make Love not War
Fay Martin Fay Martin

Make Love not War

I suggest the next wave of feminism might be a variation on an old theme, basing my thoughts on Pat Barker's trilogy about the women of Troy, and how war dehumanizes men in particular. 

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A Role Model
Fay Martin Fay Martin

A Role Model

I bounce off a consideration of the Hockey Rape trial to suggest female Bonobo apes may be the role model we need for dealing with male misbehaviour.

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The Search for Goodness
Fay Martin Fay Martin

The Search for Goodness

I wade into the dangerous world of opining about the Middle East situation and take refuge in Khalil Gibran's idea that the lust for goodness is in all of us, tucked into our 'giant self', and should be unleashed.

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The Baby in the Ditch
Fay Martin Fay Martin

The Baby in the Ditch

The importance of genealogy in discovering who we are, but also the two-edged sword of owning identity when your history is tainted, for example, by genocide past or present. 

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Planning for Dementia
Fay Martin Fay Martin

Planning for Dementia

Everyone knows someone with dementia, but no one wants to be that person and we as a culture are not very good at caring for that person. This unpacks an alternative and more humanistic approach, the Green Care Homes in the Netherlands.

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A Palliative Care Community
Fay Martin Fay Martin

A Palliative Care Community

Considers what our aging demography might learn from the experience of a group of strangers who in 1986 came together in an ad hoc community to allow a woman without family, dying of pancreatic cancer, to live the last three months of her life in her own home. 

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Going Solo
Fay Martin Fay Martin

Going Solo

In the light of recent comments about 'childless cat ladies' being responsible for the woes of the world, an exploration of why women are embracing the single life. 

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The Power of One
Fay Martin Fay Martin

The Power of One

Canadians like to think we're nice, but we practice Tall Poppy Syndrome with the best of them. That's lopping off the head of anyone who rises above the crowd. Every One has power, and how we use it determines who our leaders are and how they lead.

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Understanding and Forgiving
Fay Martin Fay Martin

Understanding and Forgiving

Robert Sapolsky, an academic who looks like Moses and sounds like 'a hugely knowledgeable yet stoned west coast slacker' (I'm quoting not judging), makes the case that science has progressed to the point where it has swallowed free will, which puts an interesting spin on the concept of accountability.

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