Selected Columns

The Baby in the Ditch
Fay Martin Fay Martin

The Baby in the Ditch

The importance of genealogy in discovering who we are, but also the two-edged sword of owning identity when your history is tainted, for example, by genocide past or present. 

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Planning for Dementia
Fay Martin Fay Martin

Planning for Dementia

Everyone knows someone with dementia, but no one wants to be that person and we as a culture are not very good at caring for that person. This unpacks an alternative and more humanistic approach, the Green Care Homes in the Netherlands.

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A Palliative Care Community
Fay Martin Fay Martin

A Palliative Care Community

Considers what our aging demography might learn from the experience of a group of strangers who in 1986 came together in an ad hoc community to allow a woman without family, dying of pancreatic cancer, to live the last three months of her life in her own home. 

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Going Solo
Fay Martin Fay Martin

Going Solo

In the light of recent comments about 'childless cat ladies' being responsible for the woes of the world, an exploration of why women are embracing the single life. 

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The Power of One
Fay Martin Fay Martin

The Power of One

Canadians like to think we're nice, but we practice Tall Poppy Syndrome with the best of them. That's lopping off the head of anyone who rises above the crowd. Every One has power, and how we use it determines who our leaders are and how they lead.

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Understanding and Forgiving
Fay Martin Fay Martin

Understanding and Forgiving

Robert Sapolsky, an academic who looks like Moses and sounds like 'a hugely knowledgeable yet stoned west coast slacker' (I'm quoting not judging), makes the case that science has progressed to the point where it has swallowed free will, which puts an interesting spin on the concept of accountability.

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Good Fences…
Fay Martin Fay Martin

Good Fences…

Boundaries are in the Zeitgeist at the moment - I summon the Stoic philosophers and the game of chess to help us figure out how to change what we can, live with what we cannot, and summon the courage and humility to figure out the difference.

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The World in Wonderland
Fay Martin Fay Martin

The World in Wonderland

I review Ken McGoogan's recently published Shadows of Tyranny: Defending Democracy in an Age of Dictatorship, which draws a chilling parallel between pre-World War II circumstances and our present geopolitical situation.

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Murray ‘n Me
Fay Martin Fay Martin

Murray ‘n Me

Murray Sinclair died in November '24, shortly after his memoir came out. I muse on his teachings about what constitutes Elders, as opposed to people who just get old. 

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Goodbye to all that
Fay Martin Fay Martin

Goodbye to all that

The concept of trauma has become mainstream in our lives, which is a relatively new way of considering how challenges impact character. I prefer the perspective, exemplified by Vera Britten's experience in WW2 and in peace negotiations following, And the suggestion of a New Yorker writer that not everything needs to be explained, not in life, not, for sure, in writing.

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What Good Looks Like
Fay Martin Fay Martin

What Good Looks Like

Nipon was, maybe still is, a Thai monk; he shared his world view during a week-long billet long ago. Three steps to changing the world he said: articulate intent, imagine the solution, protect progress. 

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Creating the Conditions…
Fay Martin Fay Martin

Creating the Conditions…

Contemplating the arrival of a new year that promises to be challenging, I mine my professional history to find a grounding perspective. I find it in the words of Senator Landon Pearson who urged us to focus on fixing the world and trusting that people would use that to 'fix' themselves. 

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Rootedness
Fay Martin Fay Martin

Rootedness

Land, language, lineage and loved ones: the four L's that underpin our health and gird the loins of hope. As the world warms, we need to (re)learn to love the land on which we live and treat it with the respect it requires. 

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The Handmaid’s Tale Revisited
Fay Martin Fay Martin

The Handmaid’s Tale Revisited

Reproductive rights are once more in the crosshairs of some who don't have wombs, and some who do. Atwood reminds us she always claimed her novel was reflection realism rather than imagination and warns us to remain vigilant. 

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Grasping the wisps
Fay Martin Fay Martin

Grasping the wisps

The authenticity of first-person experience deserves its place on the page, but a failing mind describing how his mind is failing is a sorrowful story. 

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A winter strategy
Fay Martin Fay Martin

A winter strategy

Having a roof over one's head is a matter of survival; acquiring it may require a bit of working the system. O Henry spoofs how it works in an old story but not much is new. 

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Oh Canada?
Fay Martin Fay Martin

Oh Canada?

The collective power of singing together can be used for good or ill. National anthems tend to blood, violence, and exclusionism of all sorts, and yet we sing them as if they somehow represent us.  David Pate finds that only 10 countries in the world have anthems that would be suitable for an elementary school play, and suggests we should do better. 

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Addicted to Grievance
Fay Martin Fay Martin

Addicted to Grievance

There is evidence that mankind as a whole is better off now than ever before, but simultaneously we seem to be embracing nastiness, incivility, hatred. Science explains this trend and literature shows us the way out. 

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