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Dementia doesn’t ask permission. Fay helps people stop waiting for it to.
Fay Martin speaks from twenty-five years of living with dementia - the very difficult eight years of identifying dementia, how life unfolded over the fifteen years of spousal caregiving that followed, and the strange quiet that follows death.
Her talks are equal parts practical guidance and unfiltered truth, with just enough humour to make the unbearable… bearable.
Fay is known for her sharp, precise love of language, her self-aware, self-deprecating humour, and her ability to hold both gravity and lightness in the same breath.
Signature Topics
Take the Wheel Early (Before Dementia Takes It for You): Why waiting makes everything harder—and how to take control for as long as needed.
The Invisible Work of Caregiving (Until It Isn’t): Why “good caregiving” disappears in real time… and reappears later as raw, honest storytelling.
Grief That Doesn’t Behave Properly: Rethinking grief when loss is slow, flickering, and refuses to follow the rules.
What Audiences Walk Away With
People often feel confused, anxious, quietly wondering, “Is this dementia? What do I even do?”
After Fay speaks, the audience feels clearer, braver, and are willing to look the situation in the face, and actually begin.
She doesn’t offer false comfort.
She offers something better: orientation, honesty, and a way forward.
Who This Is For
Individuals navigating dementia (personally or with a loved one).
Caregivers for a person with any long-term, degenerative condition.
Healthcare, social work, and support organizations.
Anyone willing to rethink how we approach aging, grief, and death.
Why This Matters Right Now
Dementia is rising, resources are stretched thin, and most people are still pretending it won’t happen to them.
Fay doesn’t pretend.
She speaks to the reality that this is a do-it-yourself landscape and shows people how to meet it with clarity, agency, and a bit of backbone.
To book fay for your next event, email fay@faymartin.ca